Everyone hates on the guy, but he’s right. An average heterosexual relationship is between an overly sure person and a follower. There’s some hormonal explanation to it, I believe.
By observing perfectly normal happy heterosexual partnerships you’ll see exactly that dynamic. One person mostly decides, the other mostly accepts. And they’re both happy.
I had the luxury of asking some fairly smart and self-aware women why they behave like that with me, instead of trying to have an equal relationship, and their answer was that they simply like it that way. They like the comfort of things being taken care of and decided swiftly and confidently. And regularly their partner would do just that. They thought it was absolutely fine and actually pretty attractive.
Lemmy is a queer/progressive echo chamber, so the 95% of the population reality seems wrong and someone expressing its normality without over-explaining gets downvoted. Like the guy you were replying to. But in fact, it’s a solid dating advice for the majority out there.
Everyone knows “those guys” the insecure, overly macho dude with the girl with daddy issues who thinks everyone is jealous of them but I sure as hell wouldn’t call that ‘average’ although they do to tend to flock together. Usually at clubs or bars and gyms. Or Jersey shore.
See, this is why I like my relationships 50-50. We both agree on something and each one pays their own food and we’re back at the house bumping uglies. Done.
Guys, let me explain this weirdness. The woman usually expects you to lead, make the decision. You don’t ask, you tell.
“I know! Let’s go to $restaurant!”
Here’s the part where you’re expected to have a modicum of social skills, be able to tell if she likes the idea.
No? State another option. Don’t ask, state.
“Not liking that? OK, we’ll got to $restaurant2.”
Rinse and repeat.
Relationships require social skills, sorry guys, it’s true.
Yeesh. I like talking with my partners, not to.
You’ve lost me. Why wouldn’t I ask my partner what she feels like? Is asking questions not a part of social skills?
Everyone hates on the guy, but he’s right. An average heterosexual relationship is between an overly sure person and a follower. There’s some hormonal explanation to it, I believe.
By observing perfectly normal happy heterosexual partnerships you’ll see exactly that dynamic. One person mostly decides, the other mostly accepts. And they’re both happy.
I had the luxury of asking some fairly smart and self-aware women why they behave like that with me, instead of trying to have an equal relationship, and their answer was that they simply like it that way. They like the comfort of things being taken care of and decided swiftly and confidently. And regularly their partner would do just that. They thought it was absolutely fine and actually pretty attractive.
Lemmy is a queer/progressive echo chamber, so the 95% of the population reality seems wrong and someone expressing its normality without over-explaining gets downvoted. Like the guy you were replying to. But in fact, it’s a solid dating advice for the majority out there.
Everyone knows “those guys” the insecure, overly macho dude with the girl with daddy issues who thinks everyone is jealous of them but I sure as hell wouldn’t call that ‘average’ although they do to tend to flock together. Usually at clubs or bars and gyms. Or Jersey shore.
Holy shit. Andrew Tate is on Lemmy.
Nah.
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Nah, you’re just in a relationship with an immature person.
Wow! A real alpha male!
My gf would get real pissed, real fast if I acted like this and I love her for it.
See, this is why I like my relationships 50-50. We both agree on something and each one pays their own food and we’re back at the house bumping uglies. Done.
Where do we find these $resturants?
GET /Restaurants