This finally occurred to me the other day. NTs can just have a conversation without putting in to much effort but for us it requires concentration. Casual small talk becomes a chore so we get tired off it and try to get out of the conversation. This isn’t something NTs can understand since they don’t have to put thought into talking and acting “normal.”
The possible exception to this is when Autistic people talk about special interests. This creates dopamine in the brain so we basically become high.
I have found the easiest method in smalltalk interactions is to just let the other person guide the chat, give simple answers like ‘it was good’, and then just mirror the question back to them, ’ what about you, {that question you asked me}?'. Let them do the thinking for you.
That doesn’t work for me. I had someone get offended because when she asked me if I took my pet to the vet, I replied with no. She said something like, What? That’s it?
I was like, well, yeah.
How can I tell her about something I didn’t do?
I used to work with her in the stockroom, and it was so much effort having to interact with her.
Haha i can relate. My last ex was very much like that. It was a good relationship though so it was just a bit funny whenever it happened and not exhausting
The downside is that it is pretty brainless
Brainless is good, save your energy for when you’re ready to overshare about lego in 30 minutes time
Or try to remember something relevant but forgot all the details