Ok story time.
I played a set with my band at a house show the other night, and had a great time. Afterwards this woman comes up to talk with me and compliment my set. We have several drinks together, dance to the next bands songs and talk.
This person is extremely straight presenting, and yet even i can tell I’m being flirted with. I figure that she is quite attractive and I’m enjoying her company, so I guess I’ll give it a chance. Night ends, we exchange numbers…
And she gets into a company truck of a local rapacious logging company to drunk drive home!
Hey so what job did your wife do at the police department anyway?
She led the civilian administrative group. She made sure that cops didn’t lie to the courts on their written reports by comparing it to mandatory body cam footage. She also made sure they didn’t lie to the statisticians or in response to Freedom of Information requests.
By COVID, near the end of her tenure, she’d also acquired the authority to annihilate their IT and communications infrastructure, and gained access to the means of making the physical facility unusable. But, it was not our time to strike. And, we couldn’t keep sacrificing to maintain that position anymore.
In her new position she’s an HR Director. In six months she’s somehow convinced leadership to change healthcare providers to far more expensive Kaiser. Her reasoning is that they’ve far fewer restrictions on care, including denying the lowest percentage of claims.
I’ve never seen chapo hate as they hate us below. It reminds me of being a communist in /r/politics during a POTUS election. So, thanks for asking. I hope it was in good faith.
Your story is interesting, as I suspected given your reaction to the ACAB reception your post provoked. Thanks for sharing, sincerely.
I know the frustration of being in a position to crash a system but recognising the futility of causing temporary minor disruption at the probable cost of your whole future.
Your wife sounds like a decent person. I can empathise with the intensity of your responses, even as I am amused at the absolute spiral into talking past each other that happened (and perhaps is still happening) elsewhere in the thread. I already know the fact that she’s moved into HR could provoke even more hostility and shitposting and I suspect you do too, so I respect your transparency in sharing and urge you not to take the bait even if it looks particularly juicy.
I think you’re perceiving my past and present quite well. It feels good to be understood. That makes it much easier to heed your advice and not take the bait.