I’m not sure if it’s helpful to add my perspective as someone who isn’t part of the queer community… But I frequently find myself able to relate and accept those things. It also took me the better part of my teenage years and quite some time after that to find out who I am, and who I want to be. That wasn’t super straightforward and I suppose almost everyone does this. And people come up with their own and individual takes on life all the time. So it came to little surprise to me that some people came up with different answers than me. I’m not sure what the official teachings say, I’m probably wrong here. But I think I’m basically the same thing as a queer individual. We all have needs and wants and feelings, and we all have to find a way to live our lives and maybe a happy one. The one big monumental difference is, you’re bound to experience the backlash once you don’t take the well-trodden path, act out in some form, or fail to blend in due to either refusal or just being unable to do so. That makes me think I have zero issues accepting and understanding the basic need for dealing with being a human. Of course it’s yet another story how to deal with it, and to learn about the intricate details about someone else, their specific situation, and then actually get it right. And even changing something fundamental isn’t a foreign concept to me. I also develop and change constantly.

And language is kind of an agreement, and a tool. It changes all the time and we can shape it. Communication isn’t easy. But I think language is fun. I like to experiment with it, use it for silly puns, apply it in an unconventional way or make it shine. I don’t think that’s the main point. It serves as a tool to convey something. And whether you accept your counterpart in a conversation is always in there, there is no way around that. So it kind of boils down to that. Whether you want to use language to express acceptance, or dismissal. It’s down to what words you choose and how you apply them. And communication is about transferring something from one brain into another. So the words in itself aren’t the main thing. It’s what you invoke in the mind of someone else. And that’s why I think it has a lot to do with the speaker and less so with the receiver of the words. You’re bound to invoke something in someone else with your words, and you got to choose the ones that match what you want to do. And you have to look at the receiver of your words to find out what will manifest in their mind. That’s not easy, but I’d argue it’s included in the job of speaking to someone.

(Maybe someone wants to lecture me on my take on the relationship of people within the queer community and me. And whether that’s “basically the same thing”. Because I think I have a good point, but that’s certainly been discussed already. And it feels a bit dismissive to say it this way. But then, no-one knows what it took me to become who I am, or how I fit into society. I’m certainly not exactly the same or a part of the group. But I think there’s a lot of things which are basically one and the same concept. And one could transfer some details into a different situation. But then maybe I fail to realize what a person without individuality is like and what amount of experience they have with leaving the standard way of living a life.)