I like your explanation and also would say that Drag did a great job of forcing me to consider this section of grammar. I very much dislike “individual pronouns”, similar to the other commenter, but specifically because they cause unnecessary frustration and discord in my already discordant neurodivergent brain (the point of pronouns is that there are ideas and contexts that absolutely require generic forms of nouns - breaking that section of language is very frustrating, especially as one who tries to show everyone the respect that any person deserves). However, like the other commenter, I do not see any way to engage conversationally and respectfully, without using them when requested.

So, even though it is internally aggravating, if I choose to engage, showing the basic decency of at least making a best effort of addressing one how they request is the least one can do, supposing that the individual is not specifically requesting to be addressed in a manner to elevate themselves over others (whether in good or bad faith, ex. “King”, “Master”, etc - save that for scenes, if that’s your kind of thing).

Now, neopronouns and the like, I’m all about those because they don’t break my brain and, as a bonus, many of them are novel to me.