I want to give them money but since my childhood my parents pretty much told me that they are all either faking it or are too lazy to go to work for money. I mean, I guess they can go to work but not everyone gets accepted to work as easy as it sounds like.

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    Make eye contact and give a little nod, as a minimum, instead of ignoring. I’ve known homeless people to say the hardest most frustrating part was feeling invisible.

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      That feels somewhat worse. Interacting with homeless people and not helping them kind of feels worse than just ignoring.

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        Yeah, I think there’s something there.

        It feels worse to acknowledge a suffering sector of humanity than to ignore it.

        But, it feels worse to be ignored when suffering than it does to feel seen when suffering.

        You’re choosing to feel uncomfortable so they can feel a bit more comfortable. And you do so knowing that by and large, you can afford the discomfort more than they can.

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        Yes. That’s the point. It feels worse for you, but better for them. If you want to be kind, deal with the discomfort. Otherwise just admit it’s not about the money and you’re just looking after yourself :)

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          With statements like these it feels like you’re not trying to change the situation. It feels like all you’re trying to do is tear down this person, who is pretty obvious having moral issues over this thing.

          If your goal is to help homeless people you’re doing a shit job.

          If you’re trying to induce apathy, no notes. You’re doing a bang up job.