• WashedOver@lemmy.ca
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    11 months ago

    If they survive child birth, they are on their own unless they want to do any of the numerous things on our lists we say they can’t then we will be there to make sure they can’t…

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        11 months ago

        Stop projecting dude. I know so many upstanding gents who have been amazing partners to whatever gender they are attracted to and are incredibly gentle loving souls. You don’t want to hook up with guys that’s cool but saying they don’t have the capacity to be ethical empathetic human beings is just flat out misandrist thinking.

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        11 months ago

        As a woman who doesn’t hook up with men, nah I don’t do it because they just don’t do it for me.

        That said I know other women who are into men but don’t, and it’s not because men are all bad, but because enough of them are to make gambling like that not worth it. Strawmanning their decision even supportively doesn’t do anything positive.

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            11 months ago

            Ah yeah, no it’s definitely weird to me how that goes for y’all. In my experience lesbian hookups include about half an hour of buildup conversation minimum and half an hour or so of talking after. Maybe even grabbing dinner. I love it lol.

            But yeah your complaints are things I’ve heard gay and bi men complain about and brag about.

            When it comes to sex idk, but I definitely think that in general that emotional honesty and care is a learned behavior. And it’s really unfortunate how many men struggle with these traits as they’re part of being emotionally well adjusted.

            And I will say just to reassure, you don’t have to hookup just because you’re a guy. You can prioritize romance, connection, and emotionally mature men.