• stoy
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      10 months ago

      37 and have never had it, yet I am functioning well enough, reading this post makes me wonder if I should be celebrated for not going on a rampage…

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          10 months ago

          I am working on adding a few + to my strength and stamina and get in slightly better shape in general, I recently started working toward swimming 1km five times a week, so far I go every say I can, and am slowly building my endurance.

          Last year I got myself a new camera, a Lumix S5, with a few lenses and have taken some great shots with it.

          Oh, and in december 2022, I got my driving license, and last summer I bought my first car, at 36 I had the money to get a nicer car, and got a lightly used 2021 Seat Leon PHEV.

          Two days ago, I drove into a ditch at slow speed, and got towed out by a kind farmer, no dammage to me or the car, and I learbed how to tow my car if it would needed in the future.

          So I have leveled up both ny skills and possesions.

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        10 months ago

        Question if you don’t mind, did you just never have the opportunity or you don’t want to, religion or something?

        Also have you ever considered a sex worker just to get it over with?

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          10 months ago

          I don’t mind answering, perhaps it can help someone else in a similar situation before they get into the same situation as me.

          I matured late, combine that with having trouble with interpreting other people’s emotions I wasn’t interested until I was in my mid twenties.

          At that time I worked 12h alternating day/night shifts on an irregular schedule, and was depressed.

          After working that job for four and a half years, I got a new job with normal office hours and a much better location, but by then I had become overweight, balding and was feeling lost in regards to persuing a relationship.

          Now, seven years later I am 37, and while I may be great working with users and helping them with the office IT systems, I am still overweight and very unsure of myself with regards to relationships, especially sex, I have zero experience on that subject, and I do wonder if I would be able to find a woman who would have the patience with me learning in that department.

          I am not angry, I don’t blame anyone for this situation, and I can deal with the lonelyness, I don’t lead a bad life, I try to work on myself, I am working myself up to swimming 1km five times a week get in better shape, I have hobbies, I enjoy photography (nature, planespotting, transportation and general infrastructure)

          I would like to meet someone, but I am able to deal with being alone.

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        10 months ago

        You have been rampaging though? My god you don’t even know who you are anymore!