• kajko@feddit.nu
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      10 months ago

      I see them for what they are.

      You are a man, do you see yourself that way too?

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        10 months ago

        The craziest revelation about this whole chain is the fact that they have an issue which demonstrates that at least some men do want emotional attachments, so the entire point is invalidated.

        It’s hard in the gay community though, there are just as many people who want casual sex as in the straight community but since the supply and demand isn’t limited the same way as heterosexual casual sex it seems like it’s more akin to finding a needle in a haystack for them to get something meaningful.

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          10 months ago

          I’m not judging you right now, just curious. Does it also feel that (gay) men immediately sexualize other men? Do you do that? Did you feel it was done to you?

          Was talking to my partner now (he’s a man, I’m not). Wondered if hearing straight men objectifying women when you’re yourself not into women sounds a lot more jarring and unreasonable, precisely because you’re in a way “sober” about women.

          I’m not saying men don’t have a huge damaging influence growing up, that a lot can only break with a lot of effort, but with your brother’s friends it sounds also like a bunch of horny teenagers posturing to each other. Not ideal behavior and not always harmless, but far from making men emotionless hole-seeking creatures.