NTA - Working parent of two who also happens to be the more kid focused parent when they’re home here but…this is insane to me. A 5-year-old can have some moderated responsibilities but cannot be fully responsible for that many siblings in a meaningful way without a lot of supervision. On top of that they need to be treated as a child, too, they’re not free labor. Beyond those pieces of it… homeschooling isn’t magic. If it’s done well it can work but it is a significant time investment and The suggestion by your husband that you use it as a sort of stop gap to cut down your workload makes it seem like he thinks that no important learning is happening at this stage when that is the exact opposite of true. This plan would basically increase your workload while also potentially holding back your daughter’s intellectual development…

I would strongly suggest advocating against it and for yourself. Even something like a babysitter who comes in the afternoons a few days a week can make a huge difference (from personal experience) and doesn’t necessarily have to break the bank if you plan it carefully. I hope things go smoother for you moving forward!

Maybe they can still say " oh hey look our traffic/requests are high"? They lost some valuation late last week so they might be looking for any way to indicate that the number of people/ access requests aren’t dropping.