This is completely counter productive to growing Lemmy. I absolutely despise discord. Look at the network traffic it generates and tell me wtf they are doing. They won’t tell you. Their business model will leave you completely dumbfounded as to how they exist. Everything shared on the platform is lost in a black hole unavailable to the outside world and everything shared is a privacy nightmare. Posting this, pinning it here, and locking it is one of the biggest trolls possible. It pisses me off every time I log in. “Everyone else does it” is the excuse of idiots. Discord makes absolutely no sense to anyone that actually cares to look into it, read the user agreement, and ask sane questions about what they are doing.
It’s a basic Reddit without the community and, quite ironically in this discussion, without proper mod tools.
I am a huge defender of Lemmy, but there’s still a long way to go to say that it’s a basic Reddit.
When was the last time you tried Matrix? I had the same experience as you a few years ago, but I set up a room for one of my communities a few weeks back and the experience is much smoother. If Lemmy is a basic Reddit, Matrix is a basic Discord.
Programming experience, that might be the case, but there are a few bots and SDK available, so it should be at least usable (https://matrix.org/ecosystem/integrations/ https://github.com/turt2live/matrix-bot-sdk https://simple-matrix-bot-lib.readthedocs.io/en/latest/)
Anyway, I guess we probably won’t change our minds, but it was nice talking to you, have a good one!