• SavvyWolf@pawb.social
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    5 months ago

    Recently turned 30, and am super stressing out about growing physically older, missed opportunities, wasted time and starting things late (yes, yes, I know it’s an unhealthy mindset). The amount of people that keep dismissing my feelings because “30 isn’t that old” is frustrating.

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      5 months ago

      Hey, age 30 is when I started to feel like “a real adult”.

      I hope the people saying things like “30 isn’t that old” are trying to reassure you but communicating badly.

      Unfortunately, none of the things you listed are things you can do anything about. I mean, you obviously can’t go back and re-live your 20s! What you can do is consider missed opportunities and such as motivation – keep an eye out for things in the next decade you don’t want to miss.

      Obvs I don’t know everything you’re going through, so I’ll just say: good luck.

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        4 months ago

        i felt like an adult around 30 too. suddenly it hit me like, “wait a second, I’m fucking 30, i don’t have to put up with this bullshit”. it was the best realization ever. that’s the first time i felt i stopped being a teenager. no more stressing about other people’s opinions, no more drama, no more bullshit.

        30 isn’t old; it’s just when you roughly find yourself. and that’s great.

      • RecluseRamble@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        5 months ago

        Hey, age 30 is when I started to feel like “a real adult”.

        The brain is fully developed at around age 26, so this makes sense. Still not old though since you’re not even middle aged by the world’s mean life expectancy.

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          4 months ago

          I don’t even think it’s that. I think it’s that it takes time to build and establish a life. Your 20s are figuring it out and starting. 30 is when you’ve got it down

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      4 months ago

      Use that to empower you to do the things you want to do. You don’t know how much time you have, regardless of age.

      Also use your 30s to build habits that will help keep you active into your 80s. Resistance training, cardio, and eating right. I struggled with this until my late 30s and while I’m making great strides now, it’s a much harder fight in your 40s and 50s.

    • Rolando@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      It’s unfortunate that people are downvoting you. Those are legitimate feelings to have. I felt the same at that age, so I made some changes (moved out of the college town I lived in, and started taking my job seriously.)