And apparently, also when you think that ‘They’ is a perfectly serviceable gender-neutral singular pronoun, but are willing to use other pronouns if asked to.
EDIT: Other removable offenses on Blahaj now include questioning mod/admin decisions and quoting the modlog as a reason why you’re leaving.
We really need to stop complaining about the pronouns shit, the real problem with dragonfucker isn’t with the preferred pronouns, it’s the fact that dragonfucker is known to harass individuals who call them out on their trolling or sealioning or disagree with them in any way they can’t spin as aggressive or hateful.
I was harassed by an alt of this person because I called them out for their behavior when they decided to make a public attack post on me (now deleted) because I preemptively banned their user account and “spouse” account from communities I moderated for trolling, sealioning, and bad faith arguments.
I clarified that politely and reasonably and also properly contacted pawb.social’s admins (since the mentions in their comment weren’t done properly) and the following response was to create @[email protected] and create [email protected] and start spamming it with abusive content attempting to defame, humiliate, intimidate, or even just scare me. That account also sent me porn in my DMs and made rude insults towards me. I was also told to kill myself and also sent death threats, including an invitation for admins to give out my IP address so I could be hunted down and tortured.
I’m almost certain that dragonfucker is the one who did this since it happened immediately after the post which was made on [email protected] complaining about the bans, and also there were many slip-ups by that account which indicated it was an alt belonging to dragonfucker. Unfortunately beyond that dragonfucker likely did a good job at covering their tracks, or Lemmy just sucks at identifying people, probably both, but I’m confident enough that I’d be willing to bet real money it was dragonfucker, the circumstances are way too suspicious.
Edit:
Here are some of the messages and comment mentions from the alt account mentioned in the post, fair warning, they’re not pleasant. Pornographic imagery has been censored.
CW: Abusive content, threats, suicide encouragement, harassment
A lot of contextual information for these isn’t here, to get it the admins of pawb.social and discuss.online would need to be contacted as the content and user accounts associated have been banned.
Jesus Christ yeah that’s a lot worse than whatever OP is whining about
Yeah it’s way worse, the pronoun thing that people are whining about isn’t even an actual issue. This type of extreme aggression absolutely is. And even though these offenses were committed on an alt and can’t exactly be concretely proven, dragonfucker has committed other offenses on the [email protected] main account, like encouraging trans people to commit murder-suicide and harassment of user and moderator @[email protected] (something I watched happen in front of me). Dragonfucker is a bad person and it’s really upsetting and concerning that most people don’t understand why, instead just complaining about neopronouns.
dragonfucker is known to harass individuals who call them out
The fact that calling them “them” would get your comment deleted is definitely also a problem.
But yeah, this whole mess revolves around one unambiguous asshole. The same crybully keeps coming back with new accounts and new gimmicks to pull the same shit. And it works - because the Blahaj admin takes the most hardline stance possible, and treats all criticism of it as bigotry. So this apparently-unstoppable douchebag just has to whine that someone said “fuck you, troll”, and Ada acts like the rudest part was saying “you.”
As if it’s a slur.
What I think is the worst part is that I’m a queer person, this person has attacked me in various ways as a queer person, and has attacked other queer people. Yet Ada said she just hasn’t seen the evidence, she hasn’t looked at it.
When Ada made that post, and I knew it was about the dragonfucker drama, I never felt more unsafe on a queer friendly instance as a queer person, because I know that if this shit happens again they’ll stand behind dragonfucker, and defend all the lies about how the alt account isn’t actually dragonfucker when I and many other people absolutely know it is.
And the alternative explanation is, hey guess what, your absolute no-questions-asked policy attracts dozens of miserable abusive goblins.
Your mods hate “them” enough to consider moving the one notable community to another instance entirely. This one policy threatens to reduce your instance to an irrelevant niche, because any random asshole can pull ‘did you just assume my gender?!’ trolling, and erase moderators.
I’ve seen pawb around enough to recognize the name. Detached from reality or trolling. IDK. I’m totally guilty of rapping the glass.
I think that account is a social experiment designed to see how fucking bizarre of a line of bullshit can they force down other people’s throats
Yup. I’d bet money on it.
hmm interesting
Anon is at it again?
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That dude is laughing his ass off at all the drama he’s caused.
Who, OP?
The well known troll op was originally talking about.
Never would I read this.
Sorry, Hate me but if peoples are having and not hurting anyone. I wouldn’t care. Yeah, Dragonfucker have confusing pronoun and I am not even native english speaker. That’s why I avoid talking to Dragonfucker if I accidentally mispronounced then everyone will think I am homophobe?
But “They” is gender nuetral term.
Gatekeeping whether dragonfucker is a gender is a weird hill to die for. Perhaps equally odd is permabanning for it.
It would be, if that were what happened. What actually happened is someone on a trans instance with a non-binary identity (who, i might note, had the username dragonfucker, afaict extending that term to drag’s gender identity is an embellishment) uses neopronouns, some people got butthurt about it and argued with drag about drag’s identity being “real”, and the admin rightfully drew a line in the sand about misgendering people.
The tl;dr is this dude got told not to intentionally misgender people whether he thinks someone’s identity is valid or not, and he lost his shit over not being allowed to gatekeep queer people on a queer instance and left of his own accord.
accurate analysis
Not featured is the key piece of information. Blahaj is specifically a trans safe space. Pronouns are kind of a big deal in that community. Telling them they aren’t really LGBTQ unless you approve of their pronouns is not going to go over well.
Getting banned on blahaj or hexbear is a good sign that you’re still sane tbh.
I legitimately thought better of Blahaj and Ada than this, and it’s very disappointing to see otherwise.
Blahaj is terrible, as every hardcore lgbtq+ community. They try to advocate for queer acceptance, but their radical behavior and batshit attitude are actually making them the biggest enemies of queer acceptance. They are helping rightoids sooo much.
queer acceptance
By whom?
A whole thread talking about @[email protected] brodie must be geekin reading all this😂
I mean, if I were somebody who wanted to make the resistance against the nazis weak, this is exactly the kind of bullshit I might think to do. I’m not saying that’s why this is going on. Just that there’s no reason to rule it out.
I think it’s also pretty relevant that dragonfucker has multiple times said that if you’re feeling suicidal, then you should instead get a gun and start shooting Trump supporters.
If you’re planning on killing yourself, go buy a gun and take a red hat with you. Drag is serious. Get out if you can. Move to another country. But if you’re actually hopeless, and there’s nothing anyone can say to dissuade you… Then make it count.
https://lemmy.nz/modlog?page=1&actionType=All&userId=12587481
if you’re feeling suicidal, then you should instead get a gun and start shooting Trump supporters.
I disagree with them about “dragon fucker” being a gender (I think people have started using “gender” as a synonym for any aspect of identity, and I find that annoying). I think they’re making a correct utility assessment.
Can you clarify what you mean by that, please?
Edit: I’m going to assume that it probably means what I think it means. I reported the comment for advocacy of murder/suicide.
I don’t think that it’s good to kill oneself, and I think doing neither thing is better than doing both. Sorry, the comment was made when I was falling asleep and poorly phrased. I was considering that depression causes one to not wish to do anything and so giving someone a difficult goal is a good way to avert it long enough for them to get the help they need.
I was considering that depression causes one to not wish to do anything and so giving someone a difficult goal is a good way to avert it long enough for them to get the help they need.
In my experience, most people who are suicidal want, more than anything else, just a way out. They have desperation for some way to release what they’re feeling and not have to go through it anymore. Painting a picture of one, and telling them that they can make it all count for something and then it’ll all be over, is one of the darkest and most fucked-up things I’ve ever seen on the internet in all my time here. So no, I don’t agree with your analysis.
As a side note, I also don’t see any connection at all between “correct utility assessment” and what you just said.
I also don’t see any connection at all between “correct utility assessment” and what you just said.
Okay. Actions have positive utility or negative utility based on the results. Telling someone to do something bad is bad if they actually do the bad thing. If by telling them to do the bad thing you just stop them from doing a different bad thing, then the action of telling them to do the bad thing can have positive utility even if the proposed action has negative utility.
Right: at the very least, it’s like saying ‘my gender is bisexual.’ Nope. That’s a different thing, buddy. It could be part of your identity, but it’s not that part of your identity.
I think the only neo pronoun I know is xe/xir, even then I don’t know why you would use it above they/them
Some people don’t care for ‘they/them’ as singular neutral because they’re used to it as plural.
Some people want a pronoun(s) specifically for NB identities, rather than a purely neutral pronoun.
These are both valid, if contentious, points.
I don’t know about that first one, actually. Lots of people are used to objectively wrong or bad things, doesn’t mean those things are somehow right or good.
We define language by its usage, and there is definitely a significant subset of native English speakers who regard the usage of singular they as wrong.
I mean, they’re WRONG, but I can only say so from the perspective of a fellow speaker according to my own thoughts and preferences; language doesn’t have an objective arbiter and I acknowledge that it is both widespread and not some inherently absurd notion.
There are a few others. Many are somewhat historical from before the singular they was agreed as default
Please refer to my comment on this related post: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/34327347/15649022
Yeah, if we could also convince Track_Shovel to stop posting to 196, that would be great.
They sound familiar. What’s their deal?
Nothing special, just that they are the primary poster on 196 and the reason it shows up on All.
i will now attempt to post more on 196 now
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@[email protected] why is this post still open when you locked the other one? Seems strange to me, both are equally contentious and have devolved into mostly a slap-fight. PugJesus has stated he wants to leave Blahaj but is still causing drama here over this whole affair, instead of moving on with his life.
admin makes a post saying they will enforce the rules around banning people who refuse to use neo pronouns, in a meta community for trans people, and every cis loser has to jump in and play the victim when they get banned for breaking the rules in the post was made to say the rules would be enforced. cry harder.
All these posts are from 196, not the meta comm.
I see my mistake but also this wasn’t very clear where it was posted originally.
Dragonfucker is a cis loser. She is trolling, and the dumbass mods of Blahaj Zone keep falling for it.
Wild that you’ve just ascribed she/her pronouns to drag, that’s definitely a weird level of transmisogyny.
Dragonfucker is not trans.
I don’t know if Drag is serious, but I do know they demonstrate the shallow, insincere progressivism of liberals just by existing.
…they demonstrate the shallow, insincere progressivism of liberals
What are you talking about? How is this even related?
Buy Why Male Models?
D-did, Drag try to fuck you?
I don’t think so?
It’s wild how many people seem to have ascribed things to this one creature that just don’t seem to reflect reality. Like the number of folks saying drag doesn’t accept other pronouns, when I’ve literally seen drag on multiple occasions saying they/them are okay if you can’t work out drag’s neopronouns. Just that they aren’t drag’s preferred pronouns.
Shove your blahaj fins up your ass🗣️🙏
