• MarcomachtKuchen@feddit.org
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    2 days ago

    Do lesbians refer to themselves as butch or femme during dating or is this something that only parts of the community do?

    • JustAnotherKay@lemmy.world
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      2 days ago

      Once you’re in a relationship it doesn’t really matter much. These terms exist in a similar way to “goth” or “preppy” in that they basically just describe a vibe/aesthetic. They’re mainly only used when describing one’s “type”

      • MarcomachtKuchen@feddit.org
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        1 day ago

        Do you do that for the purpose of expressing your interest in a femme partner or mainly to describe yourself?

        Please let me know if any of this is overstepping boundaries. The lesbian community is unknown to me.

        • eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          Mainly to describe myself. I’m attracted to many kinds of women.

          There are plenty of people who exclusively want fem/fem or butch/butch relationships.

          There’s not a simple mapping to conventionally-prescribed straight relationships.