Gotcha but it helps people infer that their input is desired and there’s a better chance of you noticing if you’re putting people off like the bareback anal whatever aha.

I get its folksy but its going to ward off others in this kind of instance or others from without who are trying to tend to their mental garden ;)

Check out Self-Therapy tho, its an affirming practice that takes a bit of getting used to but its really the most natural approach I’ve stumbled upon so thats all I got, good luck