hi all. I have some Japanese friends who I occasionally speak Japanese with. A mutual I’ve found out uses they/them pronouns in English, and I want to correctly gender them when speaking Japanese.

I know あいつ/こいつ but I’m not sure if it’s used by enbies in Japanese. meanwhile using XXX-san/XXX exclusively without pronouns seems clunky? I know you can get away with both using name and also omitting pronouns more easily than English e.g. “XXX-san来ましたか?” “はい、来ました” so I’m using that for now.

Sorry this question is meandering and I’m second guessing myself. Hope someone can cast some light