On one hand, I have people, both misunderstood cis and binary trans people, who ask me “Why can’t you just be a cis man?”. On the other hand, I have people, both misunderstood cis and binary trans people, who ask me “Why can’t you just be a trans woman?”.

Geez, if I have to dictate my identity on the basis of what these strangers want me to identify as, then I’m very confused as to what the right answer is! Some want me to force me in the box of being a man, and some want to force me in the box of being a woman! Surely, this is too much of a contradiction for binarists to find a fair compromise. Hmm, oh wait!

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I have a great compromise! Since people are interpreting my relationship with the gender binary as ambiguous and hard to condense down into simply one of the two boxes overall, I’ll just reject the two boxes! Problem solved!

But the problem wasn’t solved… not in the eyes of binarists