Being trans is really hard a lot of the time, the first year before I got hormones was probably the worst of my entire life. It was definitely worth it though, because being a guy sucked really badly for me regardless of any “advantages”. Taking hormones is way cooler!
IME the whole concerns about being seen as a pervert (support to our perverts here) or “pretending” aren’t that big, like the biggest population of Blanchardites is probably on 4chan at this point. Surprisingly I have never once been accused of being a perv or whatever, and I’m not some perfect passing model. I think you yourself tend to worry about it waaay more than anyone else does. There are safety concerns to consider, but y’know. Also everyone “sucks” at being their gender to start, like I still couldn’t do my own makeup if you asked me to
My main question regarding your therapist would be, how good is your therapist? If you have a cool therapist, you can just be like “I want to do something about my gender, but I’m afraid of x y and z” and you would get help n support, ideally.
But they’ll think it. And they’ll say it behind my back. One of them is in my own family 😔 and I don’t think they’ll get any real push back. And I like (most) of my family :ooooooooooooooh:
I don’t know. I’m sure he’s helped trans people before, but he has made a comment I’m a little worried about (basically saying that a lot of people bring up maybe being lgbt and then don’t bring it up again [context was me telling someone I was ace, then realizing I wasn’t and depression sucks ass so bad]) but maybe I’m over thinking it like usual. Plus he’s going to push for me to say things to my family (who I still live with), and I’m not ready :boohoo: I don’t know I’m so confused :meow-confused: (?)
Okay yeah, maybe you should not like portions of your family if they are like that. We used to kill people with hammers for saying shit like that! They should get pushback, fuck em! You can’t tell what people are thinking though, and uh I dunno, you can’t really tell what people say behind your back either. I’m certain people have talked shit about me, and Idk ask me do I give a fuck.
It’s pretty bad of a therapist to do that, like he should prioritise your comfort above all else imo, but I guess he can’t force you at least. If they don’t bring it up again, Mr Therapist, maybe it’s because they feel awkward about it…
You were probably lookin for ! I might still recommend talking with your therapist about it, maybe with the caveat up front that you’ll be talking to your relatives about it solely on your terms?
Happy Early May Day!
It’s not really a standard, and I am very proud of all the wonderful trans people out there, I just don’t want it for myself :kitti-cry:
And also being they/them ed for the first time feels so good :meow-hug: things are confusing right now.
Being trans is really hard a lot of the time, the first year before I got hormones was probably the worst of my entire life. It was definitely worth it though, because being a guy sucked really badly for me regardless of any “advantages”. Taking hormones is way cooler!
IME the whole concerns about being seen as a pervert (support to our perverts here) or “pretending” aren’t that big, like the biggest population of Blanchardites is probably on 4chan at this point. Surprisingly I have never once been accused of being a perv or whatever, and I’m not some perfect passing model. I think you yourself tend to worry about it waaay more than anyone else does. There are safety concerns to consider, but y’know. Also everyone “sucks” at being their gender to start, like I still couldn’t do my own makeup if you asked me to
My main question regarding your therapist would be, how good is your therapist? If you have a cool therapist, you can just be like “I want to do something about my gender, but I’m afraid of x y and z” and you would get help n support, ideally.
But they’ll think it. And they’ll say it behind my back. One of them is in my own family 😔 and I don’t think they’ll get any real push back. And I like (most) of my family :ooooooooooooooh:
I don’t know. I’m sure he’s helped trans people before, but he has made a comment I’m a little worried about (basically saying that a lot of people bring up maybe being lgbt and then don’t bring it up again [context was me telling someone I was ace, then realizing I wasn’t and depression sucks ass so bad]) but maybe I’m over thinking it like usual. Plus he’s going to push for me to say things to my family (who I still live with), and I’m not ready :boohoo: I don’t know I’m so confused :meow-confused: (?)
Okay yeah, maybe you should not like portions of your family if they are like that. We used to kill people with hammers for saying shit like that! They should get pushback, fuck em! You can’t tell what people are thinking though, and uh I dunno, you can’t really tell what people say behind your back either. I’m certain people have talked shit about me, and Idk ask me do I give a fuck.
It’s pretty bad of a therapist to do that, like he should prioritise your comfort above all else imo, but I guess he can’t force you at least. If they don’t bring it up again, Mr Therapist, maybe it’s because they feel awkward about it…
You were probably lookin for
! I might still recommend talking with your therapist about it, maybe with the caveat up front that you’ll be talking to your relatives about it solely on your terms?
Wish coming out as something and later retracting it was just normal.
I do too 😢 they were cool but I still felt so weird about it.