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Today: a short yap about computer hardware:
Damn I love the AM4 socket its so upgradable yay, bought a Ryzen 9 5900X for our old desktop soon to be homelab and so excited for it.
Computers are fun! (and expensive)
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Why do people even feel the need? Especially if you aren’t a Fox News boomer uncle.
Like how is it even brought up??
Yaa it’s weird, the conversation was about height and then it turned to Thailand, I don’t remember how😅
transphobia
But of course the usual came up about how you can’t know if a woman in Thailand is a woman🙄
Then the guy I went on a date with said that being trans couldn’t be healthy because trans people have to take hormones and cut their dick off, and he was sure that trans people would at most live to 50 years of age🙄
And then they finished off by misgendering Elon Musk’s trans daughter and saying that she fumbled the bag by disowning Elon🙄
I honestly don’t know why it’s something that gets brought up. Like trans visibility is generally quite low here in Denmark too, but bigots gonna be bigots I guess.
I’m so sorry you had to experience that. Like, even for a transphobe this was just really cruel.
Yaa it was kind of a weird situation to be in (especially since he kissed me twice during the break today lol), but it means I won’t have to waste my time or out myself unnecessarily. I kind of see it as his loss, like we vibed together and he seems very interested, he even wanted to watch a movie together today.
And thank you❤️ Dating as a trans person truly is miserable😫
With cis people definitely, but t4t can make that less miserable
I don’t know any other trans people, actually I’ve only ever met two trans men (at least that I know of, most likely I’ve interacted with more than two). I also do not participate in any LGBT+ communities IRL as my number one priority in life is to go stealth. I guess I’m also worried that dating another trans person would make my dysphoria even worse, maybe it’s irrational idk😵💫
Can I ask why you think that would be the case? A transmasc person’s transition is quite different from yours.
In my experience, t4t relationships haven’t just been eliminating the initial transphobia worry, but they also provide an understanding that I don’t think cis people will really have (through no fault of their own)
dysphoria/dating
Idk, I guess I just don’t want to deal with any more trans issues. I hate being trans with all my being and I don’t want to be reminded of it. Also, I wouldn’t want my hatred of being trans to affect a partner of mine. Generally I suppress what is necessary to not out myself, e.g I’m slightly bisexual, but I won’t date women.
I can definitely see how it would be nice to not have to worry about transphobia and also have an inherent understanding, but I’d prefer a partner to never bring up me being trans, I hate talking about it or being reminded of it (to such a degree that I’ve considered cutting off anyone who knows I’m trans including my family even though they are supportive)
But idk, it’s not like I’ll completely rule out dating another trans person, but it’s unlikely due to my dysphoria and the fact that I don’t know any trans people IRL. I’ll have to see what the future brings😅
spoiler
There are lot of reasons the world gives us to hate being trans, I think even the most principled trans positive person is bound to feel it sometimes. I’m sorry it’s been so difficult
Being stealth for whatever the reason is fine, but maybe it doesn’t all have to be hate and shame. Easier said than done, of course, but I think any trans person you’ve shown kindness to would want you to feel some of that kindness and understanding as well.
To whatever the future brings!
not hormones
Yeah like on top of being a bigot, he is a moron too😫 The worst part is that we are both medical students😬
transphobia
It makes them feel happy when they can hurt us. And because most of the media and politicians are on their side, they are currently feeling very emboldened to take advantage of that and say transphobic shit as many times as they want, even in the middle of completely unrelated conversations. Because in the end, they know that there won’t be any consequences for them.
Sometimes its recent things related to it. Like, sometimes my students will complain about some essay they have to write or like when there was the controversy of hogwarts legacy. At least it seems pretty rare for transphobia to just come up. I feel like homophobia might still be more common because of guys just calling each other gay due to their own insecurities or something.